Are We A Fit?
Let's get to know each other. Take a look at this and see if we might have a good fit:
What You Are Looking For:
A good listener who can genuinely get what you’re going through.
A space to feel safe, seen, and comfortable enough to be vulnerable.
A receptive and confidential space to begin restoring your relationship with yourself.
And You want to work with someone who:
Makes you feel welcome and accepted no matter what you have been through and what you might share.
Has the experience to trust your process and your journey, even when you may not.
Takes the roll of a guide to allow self-discovery instead of the roll of caretaker or "one who knows."
Here is what I know:
It can be hard to trust that you will be understood and validated for your experience.
There is nothing silly, stupid or insignificant about your experience.
You don't need to be fixed and there is nothing wrong with you.
Whatever is happening, your behaviors and coping strategies make sense.
Even though things may be really hard, and you can't trust there is a way forward, I promise you there is.
I have also heard many stories from people saying:
"A previous therapist was overwhelmed by my circumstances and strong emotions. They didn't seem to know what to do with me. Their reactivity made it unsafe and unproductive."
"A previous therapist diagnosed me and tried to use a cookie cutter treatment approach that felt impersonal, lazy and not attuned to my specific needs."
"A previous therapist was distracted, not focused and checking text messages during session."
My Take on Emotional Process Work:
You are the expert on your own internal experience. You can trust and honor your own experience. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
Deep healing happens at the speed of our innate nature, not at the wishes of our ego.
A healthy human being is available to cry as easily as laugh. We can work on that ;)
The work of emotional healing is not the work of fixing problems, it is the work of repairing internal and external relationships.
One of the first relationships we repair is the relationship we have to our nervous system. Healing is not possible with an unregulated nervous system.
People who have been treated harshly need a lot of safety and gentleness to explore their inner world. All people have been treated harshly.
Like any mammal, we instinctually know how to heal from accumulated emotional charge. Humans are the only mammal that has the ability to stop this process. We stop this process on a daily basis.
Therapeutic sessions prepare us for real-life healing opportunities. Many think healing only happens during sessions, but it’s really a foundation for growth outside of them.
Support from family, friends or community is an essential part of a full experience of well-being. You can choose who is, or is not, in your support community. You cannot choose out of support and expect a change in your experience of life.
A good summary of healing: gently thawing frozen emotion, healing broken trust and restoring harmonious and trustable relationships.
We need to get better at the art of feeling in a culture that is increasingly finding ways to stop feeling. The art of feeling increases our capacity to contact, feel and complete unfinished development cycles.